Commitment

At age eleven I experienced my parents' marriage go to hell. For the last nine years I haven't talk about it. When people asked the inevitable question, "are your parents still together?" my answer never surprised me or anyone. The idea of something so sacred becoming so cheap & unimportant in the eyes of the world makes me sad. I see marriage as such a beautiful reflection of the relationship that God desires to have with each one of us. It goes beyond a legal contract. It is a commitment to one another. A COMMITEMENT. What does that even mean to us anymore?

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. "

Ephesians 5:22-29



If a husband loves his wife like Christ loved the church (in a selfless way, wanting nothing in return) a wife will want to submit. If a wife submits, the husband will want to love her selflessly. It works. So tell me why so many marriages fail, aside from the obvious answer.